There are times when we look at our lives, think about where we’re heading and where we wanted to go and ask ourselves – “Am I on the wrong track?”. Often something has happened in our lives that makes us want to take stock, to look at where we are and consider whether this is the right direction of travel. I was heading into Richmond after a wonderful day in a room full of hypnotherapists (I’m sure there’s a joke in there somewhere) benefitting from the experience, wisdom and personality of a man called Rubin Battino.
The day was very thought provoking in so many ways as well as inspiring. I know that everybody in that room would have taken something different from the experience, but for me it was about questioning orthodoxies and assumptions. Not to dismiss what I’ve learned and gained, but in being unafraid to try something different, to try different ways to achieve the same end. In my case that’s always about how can I do something that helps my clients more effectively.
As the train passed a set of tracks that just stopped I thought about all the things that had happened to lead me to where I am and the number of times I thought I was on the wrong track. What if I had done something differently? Where would I be? I don’t know of course. All I do know is that I did what I thought was the best thing to do at that time. And the result of that is that I am here, now. I don’t regret that. It hasn’t always been easy, in fact it rarely was. It can be easy of course to look back and criticise the decisions we made with the benefit of hindsight.
But we can’t know the future or the consequences of the decisions we make until much later.
And something that I learned during my training has stuck with me and has a significant bearing on what I do and that is, “We are all doing the best job we can with the tools we have available”.
I still am. And so are you.
So ask yourself that question, “Am I on the wrong track?” and use it as the opportunity it is to look at your life, not to beat yourself up for the decisions you made, but to learn from them and to see the consequences both good and bad. Then ask yourself the next question, “What track do I want to be on?” and then make the choices that move you to that track.
It’s not always possible to see life with the clarity that we need and that’s where talking to somebody can help. Sometimes we retain an outlook that doesn’t help us, that doesn’t allow us to see the right track, only the one we’re on and it feels as though the tracks are running out. Remember that you have the right tools, but you might have mislaid them. There are people that can help you find them again.